Hey Nina,

I must say u rock the shows on Sunday!

I have a question for u though?

Me and my boyfriend are totally in love, but it feels like he can’t tell me everything. Like I mean, when he’s upset, he doesn’t wanna tell me about his problem. How do I get him to open up to me about his problems? Or should I just let it be?

JoJo

You are not alone Sister!!! Getting info from some men can be hell! From what I can gather from your letter you may be involved with what I like to call a non-communicator. There’s a part of me that says try talking to the wall and eventually he will notice and ask what your doing, which you can use this as your segue way into a discussion on communication.

I encourage you to keep exploring different avenues of conversation. Perhaps, say you know he has a problem, and he is not talking to you about it, don’t discuss it. If you think it is work related, then talk about something you may have experienced that day. Let him bring up the problem. A lot of times when people don’t want to talk about what’s bothering them it’s because they themselves are still processing it. You said you are in love; remember why you fell in love him in the first place.

Relationships are a constant growing thing. With growth comes discovery, which leads to knowledge, and the more you know the better off you are!! Keep asking questions that you really want to ask, the answer may surprise you! Its all part of the give and take I call Responsible Dating. Stay strong JoJo and keep those lines of communication open. If it doesn’t happen with this Mr. Right, you’ll have the strength of knowledge and experience for the next.

Yours truly

Nina

P.S. Thanks for the compliment about the show!!

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