Dearest Neener,
So I read your article for the last issue, and I thought it appropriate to let you know my version of the story. Let me start of by saying since your last letter, Lost and Love and I did get back together. BUT that lasted a whole two weeks. You heard that it was about me having commitment issues. I’m sure you’d have commitment issues if your boyfriend was busy sucking face with ex-boyfriends, "good friends" and certain drag queens. The fact was I didn’t have a lot of time to spend with him because I have so much on the go at the moment. Instead of being understanding, he found other ways to occupy his time. So my question to you is: Who has the commitment issues? Me who is busy dealing with everything on my plate, or him who makes out with other guys when he knows how much it bothered me?
And yes it happened more that once. You know how they say once, twice, three times a fool, well I guess I’m a f***ing idiot because it happened five times. I want to be friends, but this last week there’s been way too much animosity between the two of us, and I don’t need that, the low blows this last Saturday just reconfirmed my decision that we can’t be together anymore. It’s hard to go from being lovers to just friends. Is it worth being friends if we can’t even be civil to each other?
Sincerely,
Over Lost in Love
Dear Over,
Surprise Surprise!! There are two sides to every story. This situation sounds like you all need to go to your respective corners and take a serious time out.
Why would you get back in this situation? Live and learn I guess. Being friends with someone you were in a relationship with is a two-sided effort and will take a lot of work and time. You say that you wish to be friends; well seeing you may be stirring emotions with him and causing him to lash out. Revenge is a dish best served cold; from what you and your ex have shared with me, things here are most likely to get a whole lot colder. So put on your parkas ladies!
My suggestion is for both of you!! Don’t waste time playing mindless games with one another and enjoy the time you have shared, put it in the past and move on. Life is a series of peaks and valleys, similar to a drag queen’s boob drawer. So don’t be boobs to one another get out there and experience all that life has for you.
Love,
Nina
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