Hello again everybody, it is always good to be able to speak with you. Unfortunately, it is with less positive news than normal. First, as I am sure that you are by now already aware, is the fact that the ARGRA rodeo in Strathmore has been cancelled. Of course, this means that I now won’t have the opportunity to interact with all of you wonderful people at this event which is too bad. However, I know a number of the board members from ARGRA, having had the chance to form a good professional relationship with them over the past few years, and I know that this is not a decision that would have been taken lightly. They all have the best interests of the community at heart, and being responsible for making the decision to disappoint many of you is something that weighs heavy with them. They are all honourable people, so please spare a thought for them. I know that it is easy to be critical when we feel that we are owed something, but I am convinced that the board members of ARGRA will be working as hard as they can to try and come up with a satisfactory resolution to this unfortunate situation.
Earlier this week we heard about the homicide unit investigating another murder, and it would appear as though the latest one is domestic related. I know that, on this occasion, it is not one that is connected to the community, but let’s not kid ourselves. Domestic conflict and domestic violence are prevalent within the community, and we here at the Calgary Police Service know that it is hugely under reported. The media released information recently about how these offences seem to be on the rise and I want to touch on a couple of things that I feel are important.
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence is defined as physical violence, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, stalking and harassment between family members or persons in a relationship or related by virtue of children, marriage, or adoption.
What are the warning signs of domestic violence?
Personality changes (angry, moody, agitated etc.).
Becoming withdrawn, closed, suddenly fearful or secretive.
Difficulty sleeping or abnormally tired.
Lower self-esteem, feeling negative about themselves.
Difficulty concentrating.
Neglecting personal hygiene or personal appearance.
Physical signs of injuries like bruises, sores and cuts.
Making excuses for injuries which seem implausible.
Hiding injuries with excessive make-up, sunglasses, extra clothing.
Appetite changes - weight loss or weight gain.
Starting to use substances or increasing in substance use.
Stops attending usual activities (church, gym, family and holiday gatherings).
How can I help someone I know who is being abused?
Be there and listen, be non-judgmental?, help your friend or family member develop safety plans, help them contact resources.
If you are a victim of domestic conflict or domestic violence, please have the confidence to confide in somebody, and please know that the Calgary Police Service are here to help you. If needed, I can speak personally with you to discuss your options and help to reduce any fears you may have. I have lots of connections with resources and can point you in the right direction in terms of getting the help that you will need. It is important that you place value on your own personal safety and recognize that it is not a sign of weakness to ask for help.
The Calgary Stampede is only a few weeks away, so enjoy yourselves if you partake in the festivities there. Feel free to come and see myself or other Diversity Resource Team members at the CPS tipi in Indian Village.
As always, look after yourselves and look out for each other, and I will speak with you again soon.
