Dear Nina,
My boyfriend and I have been arguing for some time. I recently caught him in bed with somebody else. His defense was that when we first started seeing each other over a year ago things were casual and that it’s ok to sleep with other people. But he and I have been living together for the last 11 months! So many things have changed; I don’t see how he could possibly think things between us as casual! I am still fuming, I can’t believe his reasoning. What’s your thought Nina?
Yours truly,
Deaf or Dumb
Dear D&D,
You just caught your boyfriend cheating on you and your letting him take you back to a conversation from when you two first met? How stupid does this guy think you are my dear? You feel cheated and so you should, this guy obviously has been holding this as the trump card for whenever he finally got caught!! That’s right sweetie I can almost bet that this isn’t the first indiscretion he’s had. Men can be such pigs! Don’t be foolin’ yourself, that’s unnecessary!
But from here on in Girl you are going to have to LISTEN right from the beginning. If you are looking for a monogamous relationship then you have to start by stating what you want out of a relationship, and be sure whomever you’re dating wants the same thing too. Honey, the minute I hear the word “casual” come out of his mouth, if I’m not looking for casual I hit the door! You don’t have to put up with that crap! So I say ditch the loser and find yourself a man that will treat you the way a Queen should be.
This is a good time of year for reflection, look within yourself my dear, find out what you really desire, who you are and what you want. Once you gain this confidence it will radiate through, and is the best shield for keeping off scum who only intend to hurt you. Can I get an amen Girls?
Stay strong my dear,
Nina
P.S. Merry Christmas to one and all! And a very happy New Year!
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