Dear Nina,
Lately, I have noticed a good friend of mine has become quite withdrawn and rather distant. He never seems very happy and no matter how I try I can’t seem to reach him. He would rather mope around than go out and do things. And the more you ask what is going on the more distant he becomes. So lately, our conversations don’t have much interest or topic. I am very concerned about him and only want what is best for him. How would you deal with this situation?
Concerned Friend
Dear Concerned Friend,
Well it sounds to me like it could be one of two things, either your friend has decided you aren’t worth the effort or he is suffering from a major case of depression. If it is a case of him being too tired of you then give the damn boy some space!!! The more you ask the question the more he is going to see you as a major pain in his ass, and not the kind of pain which one would associate with pleasure.
If it is that he is suffering from depression then that is something he and his doctor will have to work out. If he hasn’t seen a doctor, find some article to discuss with him about the subject. The old adage, “plant a seed and watch it grow” comes to mind. But, ultimately the decision to seek help will be his. You seem to care enough about this person to take the time to write me so give him space but, keep a watchful eye on him and keep the lines of communication open. He may come around but, you will have to be patient. Sounds to me like you think he is worth it so, keep the faith my little darling!!
Nina
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