Dear Nina,
There is this guy that I really like, a lot. He seems to be interested, but this is where I always flake out. I seem to lack the ability of getting past this point. I can make conversation, but I can’t bed the guy. Can you help?
Sexless
Dear Sexless,
Perhaps you should try being more direct. If you really want this man then make your intentions known. Be bold perhaps you should lay a big old kiss on him when he least expects it. You are holding back. Be bold, and besides what do you have to lose? If you really want this then you need to make the effort. Waiting around will get you nowhere. You my child are the master of your own destiny take control and good luck!!!! Be brave; be bold, and be strong. This life is yours for the taking – now go and get it!!!
Sincerely
Nina
Dear Nina,
I have this friend we’ll call Sam, and I am very worried about him. The reason I’m so worried is because he is having unprotected sex with multiple partners. Recently another one of our friends was diagnosed HIV positive. This had no affect on Sam. I am not alone. Most of us in our circle of friends are also concerned. But no one will say anything to Sam, saying simply "we all make choices." I am not only concerned about Sam, but the people he is sleeping with as well. Nina what would you do?
Concerned Friend
Dear Concerned Friend,
You have every reason to be concerned. Your friend Sam is taking his and potentially his multiple partners’ lives at stake. If this were a close friend of mine, I would sit him down let him know what his friendship means to me and how his behaviour is effecting the people who love him. And if that doesn’t work, try a group intervention. Hearing it from all of his friends at once may wake this boy up. Ultimately the decision is his and his alone. The fact that your other friend was recently diagnosed as HIV positive has had no visible effect on Sam may just be a smoke screen. I’ll bet that deep down inside it has him scared. Talk to your friend. Let him know that there are resources available to him through AIDS Calgary. But before you sit him down for the chat, I would encourage you to check them out as well, so you can talk about the resources available to him.
Yours truly
Nina
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