Dear Nina,
I recently found out that a friend of mine is a complusive liar who lies about everything to everyone. He has lied saying he has 2 children and also lied about his family! I was in the waiting room to see a doctor and an older women started chatting me up. She asked if I was Gay and when I said yes, she said “you may know my son” and pulls out a picture from her wallet - it was my friend. I was stunned! His parents were dead, or so I’d been told. I phoned him when I got home and inquired some more about his Mother. He again claimed she was dead, and recounted the tragedy it had been. I have yet to say anything to him…I really don’t know what to say. The woman seemed like a proud parent, she carries a picture of her gay son in her purse for godsakes!!! What would you do Nina?
Stunned!!!
Dear Stunned!
Your friend may have his reasons for lying about his family, but you won’t know what they are until you ask sweetie! I would confront him about this meeting you had with this woman. Remember you don’t know her either, she could be a crazy Aunt who is unable to have children of her own, but you really won’t know unless you talk to him. If the story suddenly starts getting stranger then I’d just get the hell out of there my dear. You’ll know if he’s lying! Watch the body language especially his eyes - they are the window to his soul, its all in the eyes!!
There are people in life who can lie to your face, and who feel the need to lie about everything simply because it makes life more interesting. They like the thrill of getting away with it. But there are others who lie to cover up painful memories too! Be supportive but listen to him carefully, people who lie to get attention will usually contradict themselves because they can’t remember what they told who. They always get caught in their own tangled web of deceit.
Best Wishes,
Nina
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